Ditch Objectivity: How Subjective Thinking Can Change Your Life

Aligning Your Decisions with Your Dreams: The Case for Subjective Wisdom

There’s a quiet, powerful voice within each of us—our inner knowing. It doesn’t shout or demand attention, but it’s always there, guiding us toward what truly serves our higher purpose. This voice is subjective, deeply personal, and rooted in your unique essence. Listening to it is an act of self-love, an acknowledgment that you are the best authority on your life.

When we view the world through an objective lens, we strive to be impartial and uninfluenced by personal feelings or desires. While this is valuable in scientific inquiry or group decision-making, when it comes to your dreams, goals, and who you are becoming, objective perspectives can be limiting. They’re often shaped by external opinions and societal expectations. You’ll hear people say things like, “That won’t make you enough money,” or “You should aim for something more practical,” or “You’re meant for something better,” or even “You’ve always been the kind of person who…” These statements come from outside influences—they’re not from within, and they rarely align with your truth.

Subjectivity, on the other hand, is your personal lens. It’s the lens that asks, Is this decision in line with what’s best for me? Do these words and thoughts align with who I choose and want to be? Your subjective self knows what you want: to live a happy life, to worry less, to feel fulfilled, to be of service, and to accomplish your goals. Whatever your aspirations may be, your wise heart holds the roadmap.

Let’s talk about that wise heart for a moment—it’s the dreamer, the believer, the voice that says, You can. When we listen, it is not swayed by the noise of naysayers or skeptics. It sees your potential not as a limitation but as boundless possibility. This heart of yours knows your dreams are valid and worthy of exploration.

So, the next time you feel pulled toward someone else’s viewpoint, pause and ask yourself: Does this align with who I am and what I desire? Objectivity might be rooted in facts and external evidence, but it’s not always the wisest voice. Your subjectivity, shaped by your inner knowing and personal truth, is where you’ll find the alignment that truly serves you.

These moments when we hear messaging that is "objective," we need to essentially shut it out and immediately replace it with an "I am" statement that aligns with who you know yourself to be, and the goal you are conquering. Below are a few examples of what "objectivity" and subsequent "I am" responses sound like. Please keep in mind that while these may not be the exact words we hear, they often mirror the thoughts and beliefs we internalize from moments and messages:

• "That’s too risky; you should play it safe."
  "I am bold and capable of taking the risks that lead to my dreams."

• "You’ll never make enough money doing that."
  "I am abundant, and my passion brings me financial success."

• "You don’t have enough experience for that."
  "I am always learning and growing, perfectly equipped for every challenge."

• "It’s too late to start something new."
  "I am exactly where I need to be to begin something amazing."

• "What if you fail?"
  "I am resilient, and every step brings me closer to success."

• "That’s not practical."
  "I am creative and find ways to make my vision practical and achievable."

• "Why would anyone listen to you?"
  "I am a voice of value, wisdom, and inspiration to others."

When you align your decisions with your subjective self, you step into a life that feels right—one that reflects your unique path and purpose. So, tune out the external noise and tune into your heart. It already knows the way and what is truly best for you.